It is a physical and mental state that supports emotional intelligence, it increases empathy and the ability to communicate with others. Can you create it technically? An expert says yes.
1. Good mood is great for meetings
We all agree that an event where people are in a good mood is more successful. Especially if it is a deep and shared good humor, and not just a laugh for a joke. In fact, when the climate of an event is filled with good humor, everyone can fully use their emotional intelligence, which makes us more compassionate, empathic, that is able to put ourselves in the shoes of others and above all to communicate in a more effective way, because we don’t get carried away by the tension. And the event has better results and it is more enjoyable.
There are explanations and scientific confirmations of this phenomenon: it is proven that breathing is slower and deeper in a humorous atmosphere and more oxygen is delivered to the brain, serotonin and dopamine increase our visual and concentration capabilities, we are more relaxed, mentally more lucid and extroverted.
So good humor should be considered a very serious ingredient for the success of an event.
2. The creation of good humor in three steps
Many people think that good humor in a group of people, such as meeting participants, is a somewhat random and ephemeral condition entrusted to a mysterious chemistry or some brilliant storyline of an entertainer.
Actually it’s not like that. As it may seem strange, good humor can be built and made widespread and stable with surprising effective psychological techniques.
It concerns the “good mood engineering”, a three-step path whose execution is also very funny. An expert performer is necessary for you to be guided.
3. First step: understand why we feel better
The first step consists in acquiring the awareness of the benefits of good humor and the risks of negatively interpreting the events and staying in a dark mood or neutral. In practice, if you don’t realize that for you it is a bad thing being in a bad mood in an event, you won’t do anything to be in a good mood. And if you think that having good humor doesn’t depend on you, it’s too complicated or for stupid people, it is fatal: you will always be in a bad mood or be nervous during the whole event. Being aware of the risks and consequences of bad mood, compared to sure and scientific benefits of being in a good mood, is the engine that pushes you and encourages you to find ways to have a good humor.
4. Second step: behave like cheerful people
The second step consists in involving the body, that is, you have to prepare yourself as a sportsman before getting in the field: change posture and breath, and smile, because science says that if you smile and move you facial muscles, motion creates emotion and thus it influences your mood. Smiling triggers a positive internal reaction on the relaxation and functioning of visual, concentration and memory capacity, thanks to serotonin, dopamine and endorphins.
5. Third step: use positive words
Finally the third step: after changing your body condition, you can change you own mental conditions, by focusing on your points of strength, positive memories, successes you’ve already obtained. You can try to describe reality by using a positive and humoristic language, because every sentence or word that we say or think o hear creates a suggestion in our mind. Like at school when we were told that tomorrow there would have been a substitute teacher, and the word “substitute teacher” was already able to change our humor.
So talking about a heavy day, an unpleasant customer…has a negative impact on our mood. To create good humor, different words should be used to describe the same reality, including ironic euphemisms such as:
– not a light day, which is better than the word “heavy”
– very busy day, which is better than “heavy”
– not very pleasant client, which is better than heavy, unpleasant
6. The good humor benefits
This path, which is also a kind of game, creates good humor firstly on an individual level and then as a tool to influence and guide the others towards beautiful positive emotions and create psycho-physical conditions for the success of the event, and in effect:
– Empathy with the other participants
– Clear and positive communication ability
– Overall view ability of the situation and the ability to face eventual unexpected events and to find solutions
– A lively climate that helps not to make mistakes but to do everything with precision and understanding between people
– Everyone being a positive point of reference for the other people also in managing the stress of the event.
7. Taking care of the good humor is the job of a good planner
In conclusion: to realize a successful event, people need to be in an ideal psycho-physical state that can be triggered by good humor. Good humor is also the most effective antidote against stress to which it is subject to the same participation in the event, where the participants don’t have the full control of the situation because they don’t know each other. If the planner wants to ensure the event’s success even with the wellness of the participants, it would be good thing to expect a good mood engineering intervention and not think that it is distracting, deconcentrating, indicating little professionalism and little commitment. Actually, it is all the opposite.