Nobody thinks of going unnoticed. A table reveals a lot about us. A brush up on basic rules is a passport for lunches and dinners without complexes.
1. A chilling dinner
The conference is over. I’ve been invited to dinner in a beautiful hotel; the direction of the evening is very accurate.
A stylish gentleman makes me find my way to a table of people I do not know, already seated. Someone replies to my “Good evening” and no one shows up.
I start a conversation with my neighbour, a good manner lady, but after few words the other neighbour stretches his arm passing in front of me, grabbing a bottle of water and filling the glass to the brim.
He swigs while the elbow is not detached from the table.
Meanwhile the appetizers are served. The seemingly good manner lady slowly and surgically chooses from the tray pieces that look better, then, after her sorting, she indicates with a knife to another lady her starter and comments on them. The knife hovering in the air.
I cannot not notice, stunned, another diner who chews with his mouth half open, talking.
People apparently civilians and elegant, yet so clumsy at the table. An involuntary- but annoying – rudeness.
Food and business go together forever, but if we add little good manners, the mix will be more pleasant. In those occasions, you lower the personal defences and good education gaps emerge in all their evidence and speak (bad) of ourselves
So why don’t we go over the grammar of being at table?
Without going to sometimes-incomprehensible rules of court, we can begin by saying that the etiquette is not the enemy of kindness but it’s the glue between those who, are sitting at the same table, creating a dedicated user-friendliness harmony, empathy and mutual well-being. A few basic rules can be summed up in three words: composure, discretion, kindness.
Before sitting down at the table greets the group without introducing himself, not being in a living room where the presentation instead is necessary.
Ladies will first accommodate at table. Bon appétit!” is an inelegant wish, but if someone says, it is polite to answer, “Thank you.”
In conversation, showing interest in listening is the first rule. You must respect the opinions of others, never monopolize with speeches too long, and do not talk about work if it is not just a business lunch. Do not enter into the intimate matters, nor do talk about politics, religion, death and disease.
It is manifestly vulgar rest your elbows on the table, bending toward the plate, and talk with your mouth full. And talk loudly or with people from nearby tables too.
You sit straight, with the elbows close to the lower trunk, only the wrists will lean on the table.